The Killer–Perfectionism

Perfectionism is often lurking in the background of every woman’s life, especially the Christian woman. We often have a checklist in our minds–or  I do anyway–of everything we have to accomplish or feel like we have to accomplish. If we fail, then we somehow feel as if we don’t measure up, that we aren’t good enough. If this describes you, then you’re in the same muddy water I sometimes find myself in. We fall into the comparison game: she has it all together; she lost the baby weight in like a month;she and her kids always look so great; she makes her own baby food, soap, clothes, etc; she always has a clean house and a home-cooked meal; she and she and she. But instead of falling prey to that thinking, what if we just stopped and truly thought about the blessings that we have?


As Christians, we have been given a gift (Ephesians 2:8)–a gift that nothing can compare to, not even the gift that God has blessed me with of the sweet smiling face of Jeremiah. We have been given the gift of salvation. In the book Christ in the Chaos: How the Gospel Changes Motherhood, she breaks down this GREAT gift into two gifts, no guilt and total righteousness. She goes on to say that

It seems many Christians, myself included, find it hard to remember the second gift [gift of righteousness]. Told that our slate is now clean, we rejoice. But then our follow-through is all wrong–we assume that, having been given a clean slate, our job now is to go forth, produce good fruit, do lots of good works, and try really hard to keep a perfectly God-honoring record. It is often suggested to us-and often we assume-that if we mess up we have to start all over. We think that if we mess up our slate is marred or even ruined, and then we have to prove we deserve to have it wiped clean again.

I can’t count how many times I’ve fallen flat on my face in fear that God would reject me. Until I discovered that I am His and nothing can separate me from His love (Romans 8:38-39), I lived in this constant fear of rejection, so I hounded myself until all I thought about was the law and my conformity to it. This mentality is not the righteousness of Christ. It’s exactly the opposite. It’s self-righteousness and borders on the lines of legalism where you only focus on you and not what Christ has done for you.

There is supreme difference between legalism and godly discipline in our lives. The way our heart approaches these matters is important. We have to remember that God’s grace is sufficient for us. Grace comes from the Greek word charis, which means “the divine influence upon the heart and its reflection in the life; gratitude; favor; gift; joy; liberality; pleasure.” As God’s children, we don’t create a big to-do list where we check things off. We live in His grace. Grace is not just unmerited favor. It is an enabler to live a life of obedience to Him! Live in it! Bask in it!

I love how Barbara Hughes describes this issue of legalism and discipline from the book Disciplines of a Godly Woman:

But true discipline is a far cry from legalism–thank God! The difference lies in motivation: Legalism is self-centered; discipline is God-centered. The legalistic heart says, “I will do this to gain merit with God.” The disciplined heart says, “I will do this because I love God and want to please Him.” The true heart of discipline is relationship–a relationship with God.

So, when we so easily fall into the temptation of checking items off a list (I read my Bible today, I prayed today, I do this and she doesn’t do that), ask yourself where this motivation is coming from. Are you doing the things you do to receive the title of “perfect mom,” or are you motivated to do the things you do out of love for God?


Valentine’s Day

I haven’t posted in a while. This year has been a growing process and has been a complete joy since Jeremiah has been born.

I was checking my email this morning, and ran across this blog post concerning Valentine’s Day. It was so good that I thought I would share. Thank God for His love and His grace that is always faithful even when we are unfaithful!

Check out the blog post here.

Beginning with Thanksgiving

As Thanksgiving and Christmas has passed and the new year has begun, I can’t help but feel extremely thankful. So much has happened this past year–good and bad–that I can rejoice in the One who made all these things come to pass.


The first thing I am grateful for is that come March we will have a new addition to our little family–Jeremiah Lucas. My heart is overjoyed that God would bless us with a child. God knows who this little one will be in his life and already has a purpose for him.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11

It has been my heart’s prayer since we found out we were expecting that God would greatly use our child for His glory, and that our marriage and roles as parents would bring glory to God. These are the most important things in life: our Father in Heaven and His Word, family, and church. I hope that is always reflected in my life for people to see, to stand as my testimony.


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Secondly, I am thankful for my husband. He works six days a week to provide for us and runs our home in a godly manner. Brandon truly exemplifies to me the husband described in Ephesians 5. He is our family head and leads and guides us in the ways of the Lord.


Thirdly, although most important, I am thankful for God’s Word. Without His Word, we as Christians cannot stand. I pray as we venture into this new year that I will reverence and cherish His Word so much more in my life than ever before.

“Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.” Psalm 119:105

Have a blessed new year, and let us keep our eyes looking upward!


NingXia Red Give Away

Ever heard of Young Living’s NingXia Red? Wanted to try it, but didn’t want to splurge in case you didn’t like it? Well, here is your chance to give it a try before taking the plunge and ordering. 🙂

Here is a little product summary provided by Young Living to give you a little information about NingXia Red.

Product Summary
NingXia Red ® combines the extraordinary wolfberry
superfruit with 100 percent pure essential oils in a powerful,
whole-body nutrient infusion. The benefits of the legendary
Ningxia wolfberry have been sought after for centuries,
and ongoing research continues to yield exciting, new
health-supporting properties. Enjoy its naturally delicious
flavor daily to sustain energy and to replenish key nutrients
for long-lasting health and wellness support.*
NingXia Red’s essential oil blend is made up of orange,
yuzu, lemon, and tangerine. Strategically chosen for their
health-supporting benefits and flavor profiles, these oils are
93 percent d-limonene—a powerful antioxidant and marker
for bioactivity and contain the flavone tangeritin. Together
this blend adds premium, natural flavoring and helps
maintain the body’s normal cellular function*.
The wolfberries (Lycium barbarum) sourced for NingXia
Red hail from the Ningxia province in northern China. This
superfruit has one of the highest percentages of fiber of
any whole food and contains zeaxanthin—a carotenoid
important to maintaining healthy vision. It also contains
polysaccharides, amino acids, and symbiotic vitamin-
mineral pairs that when present together promote
optimum internal absorption. By using whole wolfberry
puree—juice, peel, seeds, and fruit—Young Living is able
to maintain more of the desired health-supporting benefits
in every bottle of NingXia Red*.
Highlighting the supporting fruits found in NingXia
Red is a patented grape seed extract that contains
polyphenolic compounds that may help support a healthy
cardiovascular system*. Additionally, blueberry, aronia,
cherry, pomegranate, and plum juices introduce additional
carotenoids and phytonutrients. These core building blocks
supply your body with the resources it needs to maintain
good health and overall wellness, allowing you to perform
your best every day. NingXia Red is lightly sweetened by
natural, calorie-free stevia extract.
NingXia Red replenishes key nutrients; delivers natural,
low glycemic energy; and provides essential antioxidants
to combat free radicals. Enjoy 2–4 ounces daily for long-
lasting health and wellness.
Who should use NingXia Red?
  • Anyone interested in antioxidant support *
  • Anyone looking to support a healthy cardiovascular system *
  • Anyone looking for lasting energy *
  • Anyone looking to support the immune system *

Suggested Use:

  • Drink 1-2 fluid ounces two times daily. Best served chilled. I keep mine in the fridge, so  I can just grab and go. Make sure you shake well before use.


  • Keep out of reach of children
  • If you are pregnant, nursing, taking medication, or have a medical condition, consult a health professional prior to use. This goes with all essential oils. You need to be careful because they are very potent.

*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.*

So. . . how do enter the Give Away?

I’m going to give away 5 NingXia Red Singles along with some Young Living product information. I love NingXia Red. It has a pomegranate sort of taste. I try to drink one single a day. I keep it in the fridge and just grab and go when I need a pick me up.

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To enter the give away,

  1. either comment below or on Facebook or Instagram.
  2. You will get an extra entry if you share the post (just make sure to tag me).
  3. You can also get an extra entry if you tag a friend.

The lucky winner will be drawn on July 1. Share away! 🙂

Young Living Thieves Cleaner

If you were like me, you pretty much had a cleaner for every job in the house–window cleaner, shower cleaner, oven cleaner, kitchen cleaner, and the list goes on and on. Here recently I’ve tried to downsize. I was running out of room in my storage closet, y’all. 😉 Plus, sometimes all the chemicals, especially cleaning the bathrooms, would make it difficult for me to breathe.  I now have only one cleaner I use for everything, and I make my own cleaning wipes. I save money and space.    I use Thieves Household Cleaner for everything (kitchen, bathroom, mirrors, glass, you name it). Plus, it lasts forever. I made this bottle about 3 weeks ago. All you do is choose how strong you want it and add water. The dilution chart is on the back of the bottle. Here are some other things Thieves Household Cleaner is used for the home.    If you want a cleaner that can do it all and save money, which is always a good thing especially to my husband, haha, this is for you.  Happy cleaning! If you want to purchase this, you can go here.

Keep On Rolling 

Essential oils are great natural resources to use. On a daily basis, we put so many chemicals into our bodies. It’s amazing what this machine, our body, can do. God designed it to do so. But instead of reaching for the energy drink, try a few natural remedies for energy or whatever else it might be.

Here in the past week, I’ve gotten into making my own roll-ons. I absolutely love them! They are really easy to make, and you can come up with your own recipe for just about anything you need one for.

Here are a few that I have made.

Zit Zapper

  • Lavender
  • Frankincense
  • Ocotea

Lady Aches

  • Lavender
  • Peppermint
  • PanAway

Calm & Collected

  • Lavender
  • Stress Away
  • Orange

Allergy Blend

  • Peppermint
  • Lavender
  • Lemon

Bug Bites

  • Purification
  • Lavender
  • Frankincense

Germ Defense

  • Orange
  • Lemon
  • Thieves
  • Frankincense

Morning Buzz

  • Lemon
  • Orange
  • Peppermint

Ache Away

  • Peppermint
  • PanAway
  • Frankincense
  • Lavender

Those are just a few. Always mix a carrier oil if you decide to make your own.  I use fractionated coconut oil, but there are other carriers to choose from. If you want to know the kind of essential oil I use, go here.

Happy oiling!

Am I truly thankful?

I have recently decided on a change. I had a different blog, and I was never consistent with my postings. Here recently, I’ve just felt disconnected with it. I wasn’t happy with the name of the blog, and I just felt a change coming on in my life. The Lord truly has been working on me, and I feel myself growing so much closer to my Savior. Looking back at a few of my most popular posts from that blog, I couldn’t move away from something I had written. We just sang the song at church I referenced in the post, too. And I asked myself this question, and I’m still asking myself this question as I write this blog post–Am I truly thankful? Do I live my life in thanksgiving unto Him, the one who paid the ultimate price for me? Do you live a life of thanksgiving every single day you wake up and breathe the air He gives?

“Our Lord Jesus did not die for imaginary sins, but His heart’s blood was spilt to wash out deep crimson stains, which nothing else can remove.”-Charles Spurgeon

When I read that quote and began to contemplate upon it, the thought that just kept popping in my head was “wow.”

Why would He suffer for me? WOW.

Why would the Son of God die for me? WOW.

Why did He choose me before the foundation of the world (Romans 8:30)? WOW.

Why did and does He love me even with my deep crimson stains? WOW. Just WOW.

I’m not even worthy to call the name of Jesus, but yet He chose and loved me so to enlighten my mind to show me that I was in need and am in need of a Savior.

Thank God for His saving grace to cleanse me and that keeps cleansing me from my unrighteousness (Isaiah 64:6). I am nothing without Him (Ephesians 2:1-9).

We recently learned a new song at church–Thank You God for Saving Me by Chris Tomlin. Do we really thank God for his heart’s blood that was spilled to wash out our deep crimson stains that nothing else can ever remove? Are we truly thankful that we are able to say that I am a son/daughter of the Most High God (1 Thessalonians 5:18)?

I want to live a life of thanksgiving unto the One who gave me life! A life full of charis–grace.